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Being Inside Other People’s Lives |

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 Boundaries, Projection, and Personal Leadership There is something very real that happens when you step into other people’s environments—not as an observer, but as a participant. Working through platforms like HelpX, you don’t just “help.” You enter people’s lives. Their homes, their rhythms, their unspoken tensions, their ways of relating. And very quickly, you begin to see patterns. People in dissatisfying situations don’t sit still. One will try to pull you in. The other will push you away. Not because of you—but because of where they are internally. What becomes visible, again and again, is that people are not responding to reality as it is. They are responding to their own state of being. Their frustration, their lack of clarity, their unprocessed emotions—they move through the space and look for somewhere to land. And if you are present, open, and capable… that “somewhere” can easily become you. This is where boundaries stop being a concept and become a practice. Holding you...
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France — June 2026

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Picking plums at my helpx address.  The never-ending rhythm of them, raining down while I gather what I can. Hearing the crickets as I hang the laundry on the line, feeling the cool breeze moving softly across the land. Gardening. Planting into the veggie patch. Raising the tomatoes in the greenhouse above the ground, giving them space to grow. Cookin..  this year, not cleaning yet. Letting that be. And enjoying the pool, letting it cool me down in the heat. This is France, 2026. My lover and I are learning to align our agendas, to make space for what wants to come together. His new house in St Emillion area will bring us closer. This is my June. I feel happy. Content. Full. Grateful. Two dogs keep me on my toes — and tell me the truth without words. And people around me, connected souls, helping me move through this phase in life, just as they did last year. Something has already shifted since then. It cannot stay the same with this much awareness around us. It is such a plea...
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The Right to Barefootedness

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I left a job because of something simple: I wanted to sit and work barefoot. It was not really about shoes. It was about self ownership.. and the right to make my own choices.   Somewhere between rules and roles, I noticed something shifting in me.  The more I adapted to what was expected, the further I moved from how I naturally regulate, think, and feel.  Barefoot became my small act of honesty, a way of staying connected while I worked. Not everyone understands that. But for me, being barefoot is not casual. It is grounding. It is regulation. It is presence. It is a reminder that I am not only a function or a role, but a living system in contact with the world. When that was not allowed anymore, something became clear. It was not just about comfort. It was about autonomy. How much of myself do I need to remove in order to fit into a space? And at what point does adaptation become disconnection? We often think professionalism is about presentation.  But there is an...
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Wild woman

 can we say that we no longer have the need to oblige society as women.. i sense i am a wild woman.. roaming the globe by my self..  not really having a plan but to be me..  to lead the self.. but where to..  to make chocies but what for..  choices to be self owned choices to be free to the maximum extent an sometime to get pulled in by love, sometimes by money, but always to choose to be free again of what chained us for a while  how do we choose what do we choose  As i am applying for challenging jobs on luxury yachts, in London, i seem to be pushing back on bounderies,  handling more challinging circumstances..  last year it was financial challenges, homelessness, and i landed pretty well in a hostel in malaga. this year it seems to be about personal freedom..  learning to make pure choices on how to spent the money and still enjoy life.. A lady and i connected today and she asked me if i wanted to go on a St Jaques pilgramige from Fr...
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Rethinking Value

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Reconnecting through reflection and network I spent the afternoon taking care of basic needs, clearing out some heavy internal noise, and sitting quietly in the 5pm sun.  After a long nap, I found myself on LinkedIn, slowly catching up on missed posts and engaging more intentionally with my network.  Not just scanning updates, but genuinely trying to understand people—the layers behind what they share, what they are building, and what they stand for. In that process, one theme kept resurfacing:  value .  What is it, really?  And how do we define it in a way that holds up beyond metrics or titles? That question naturally brought me back to my own work with Freedom Coaching160, and the value I aim to bring into client relationships. At its core, my coaching work supports people in making decisions that lead to a life Free from confusion. It helps create clarity where there is confusion, by reconnecting choices to intrinsic values. The intention is to guide people ...
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Selfownership allows for deepthinking

Reconnecting Through Reflection and Network |  I spent the afternoon taking care of a quiet hunger—letting negative energy dissolve and sitting calmly in the warmth of the 5pm sun. There was something grounding in that pause, something that allowed space to open again. After a nap, I found myself scrolling through LinkedIn, catching up on missed posts and engaging more deeply with my network. Not just surface-level interactions, but really taking the time to understand people—the layers behind what they share, what they build, and what they stand for. In doing so, I kept running into one central theme: value. What is it, really? How do we define it? This reflection brought me back to my own work—Freedom Coaching160—and what I bring to my clients. At its core, it’s about life coaching that supports people in making decisions that lead to a better life.  It’s about creating freedom from confusion by taking time to exhale and just be and focusing on intrinsic value.  It’s ab...
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Self owned Time |

 Reconnecting with Myself As I stepped away from my 2–10 job after an incident yesterday, I found myself walking through the city today, going up the hill behind Albufera Castle, which I had not walked before—rediscovering a new side of it, and of myself. Afterwards, I sat down for a well-deserved lunch at a small, lovely café in a new part of the city.  I noticed the care and effort the café owner was putting into serving her customers.  It was taking quite some time, and instead of rushing, I opened my computer and started noting things down on a thought process that had evolved from my morning convo with a client. There was a new clarity to this day. When it was my turn to order, I did so—and was surprised by the richness of the jasmine tea I chose. Sitting there, I realized that for the first time in a while, I truly felt my time was my own again. An unspoken return to self-ownership. I had given that up willingly, recognizing the need for temporary income in another ...
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