Life coaching Blogs

 as i was looking at late night bookings and the pattern they signal, chatgpt mentioned that it was about making decisions that came to the surface as the buziness of the day settled. i guess the need for comfort, the need to release tension build up during the day, and the need for comfort all come together in the quite moments after business.  my left brain started thinking about how behaviour like this could be taken care of, buffered during the day.. by planning, by feeling deeper, and suddenly i get what i do in my coaching..  deep feelers like me, hsp me, who feel, process and fix, we bring strategy to behaviour that creates urgency impulsiveness..  kind of like drug addicts..  but also like in those who avoid big decisions and stay in the mess of their unresolved issues..  deep feeling builds trust,  takes time to listen in,  allows pressure to be released  gives emotiosn time to unfold,  allows the brain and intellect to look at ...

Emotional things. Three experiences today. The first… a young lady from my dorm was tiptoeing around the room, trying to open a door that was stuck. She kept moving the handle from vertical (closed) to horizontal (open), but nothing happened. I walked over and said, “Horizontal… and pull. Hard.” She did. It opened. “I’m getting hormonal,” she said. And I could feel, in the way she said it, that she truly believed that was what was happening. So I stepped closer, gave her a hug, and held her for a moment. Then I guided her into a grounding exercise. “I am powerful.” “Nothing is bigger than me.” “I’ve got this.” She repeated it. You could feel the shift almost immediately. It was light. Simple. Real. We had only met a day ago. I had connected with her when she spoke about conspiracy theories, about her dad being a believer, a hippie, and her mom having gone in the complete opposite direction. And her? She stood somewhere in between. A hippie in her own way. Seeing both sides. “It’s alway...

When i was living in The Netherlands, I stubbled upon a house of 800K, it was a dream, square male energy and next doro to Arboretum Trompbenburg..  I told my mom about it, I was young enthused and just working.. my mom as she usually did, fluffed it off and said sth like thats a lot of money.. where will you get it? This used to faze me.. like all the other times she had discouraging tone in her voice when my creative side came up with an idea.  Today as I was walking by some properties around 750K, that moment flashed through my mind.. but now my mind did not believe in the ‘no, you can’t’. A recent encounter with one of the directors of the big 5, taught me a new attitude: its just money.. if you don’t have fun with it, what good is it.  Today, i thought, yes.. it's possible.. because I also have a project that will bring in bigger amounts then before..  12x5000 devide by 3, times 2, and then 30% of that.. being 12000 per engaged and hired client.  Today i cr...

Since 2004, meditation with God has given me calm, clarity, and a deeper alignment with my values.  It has taught me how to listen—to myself, to others, and to what life is asking of me. Over time, this practice helped me become  self-sovereign . It strengthened my inner compass so I can make my own choices rather than depend on systems to define them. That independence has been one of the main sources of my happiness. It also developed what I now recognize as the core elements of leadership and personal development: Inner authority  – trusting your own perception and conscience Autonomy in decision-making  – not outsourcing responsibility to institutions or social norms Values-based action  – choosing alignment over pressure In value-based leadership, this is what we call  self-leadership : the capacity to govern your own mind, emotions, and decisions before leading others. The value for others is not in the belief system itself, but in the  outcomes ...

I was just reading an article on LinkedIn about meditation and the answers we receive. It reminded me how often the value of meditation is still underestimated—especially from a scientific perspective. Not because it has no value, but because much of its impact lies beyond what is easily measurable. For me, meditation has never only been about relaxation. It has been about  receiving insight —from the subconscious, and from a deeper, more subtle level of awareness. Since 2004, I have been practicing early morning meditation at 3:30am. In those quiet hours, something shifts. The state I enter goes beyond the mental and physical layers of experience. There is a sense of clarity and calm that is not created by thinking. In that space, the connection with what I call the source, or spiritual truth, becomes tangible. It reconnects me with something deeper than personality—something stable, clear, and already present. From there, a different quality of awareness emerges: less driven by e...

A New goal  Last Sunday, as I went up for breakfast and tea at  7:07 am , I was planning to settle into my high chair. While standing there, my eye was caught by an object floating above the buildings to my right. A balloon, it seemed — and a  6 , in the colour gold. Moments later, as the  6  registered, my eyes caught a  0  further to the right. My mind completed the puzzle: a lady who had turned  60  and was letting her balloons go. As the  0  floated upward, the  6  slowly went down, the loose tail of the six dragging it back toward the ground. But the  0 was being pushed higher by its perfectly open structure. There was my new goal:  60 . And it arrived with a very restful energy — to become 60 and be at peace. It felt like the universe was sending me my next milestone. For the past years I have been working toward becoming  55 , which will happen in just a few days. I have written before about the joy a...

A Quiet Answer to an Old Question This morning, brushing my teeth, I remembered a question someone once asked me: “Where will you be at 55?” At the time, I had no answer and drew a blank.. it felt abstract. Now I am two weeks away from turning 55. And I have the answer. I will be happy, light. I will be free, unburdened by the heaviness of life. Because I made all the choices that made sense to me.  I will be working in  Málaga .  A place of beauty and social networking that leads to business success.  Working not in the way   where   ambition once defined success. But in a way that fits my nervous system. A Different Kind of Achievement At 55, I have: A 2–10 job in customer experience support that suits me. Mornings that belong to me. Days off that feel like holiday because I have designed my life to feel like one. Light. Air. Water. Movement. There is no dramatic headline. Just alignment. And that may be the most underrated milestone of all. The Architect...